Little Girl, I say to you, get up!
It happened again. Last night at my daughter’s softball game. Another public outburst. Another stunned silence. And again, I am asking how I am supposed to protect my children when my hands feel tied. This is my experience with domestic violence, shared custody, and trying to get help through the courts. There is no way I am the only one.
Not Without My Children
What can a parent do when parenting time is withheld, a stepparent crosses parental boundaries, and family court repeatedly fails to address the larger pattern? Why I’m requesting a Guardian ad Litem and hiring a private court reporter.
When Loving Your Children Means Refusing to Tear Them in Two
When children become proxies for post-separation abuse, protecting them can mean navigating coercive control, family court, and impossible choices while refusing to let the battle determine who you become. Sometimes loving your children means refusing to let them be torn in two.
A Dance of Faith and Obedience
Sometimes obedience means taking the next step without understanding where it leads, and faith means trusting the One leading when we can no longer see where we are going. A reflection on uncertainty, hearing God’s voice, and the quiet dance of faith and obedience when we find ourselves in deep waters.
Fractured Wisdom in the Wild Unknown
Sixteen months after the first betrayal fractured everything I thought I knew, I was wrestling with two certainties: I could not change the past, and I could not know what tomorrow would bring. These living notes capture the imperfect wisdom I was reaching for while still inside the wild unknown.
Getting To Know You, After Relational Trauma
Healing has given me the space to get curious about myself again—to notice how I naturally function, what brings peace, and what creates unnecessary friction. Sometimes deep healing looks surprisingly ordinary: learning who we are without fighting ourselves.
What are Your Wild Inspirations, Lord?
What if some of the ideas that seem random, insignificant, or impossible are invitations to pay closer attention? Wild inspirations are those moments when we quiet our own priorities, listen for God’s direction, and trust what He places before us—even when we cannot yet see where it leads.
To Come Before God Like David: Radical Honesty and Secure Attachment to God
The more I read His word, learning His language, the less interested I become in appearing spiritually mature and the more interested I become in being honest. Freedom begins when we finally stand before God without disguises, knowing we are already fully seen, fully known, and loved still.
Just Another Night: A Memory From Within The Storm
There are nights when every strategy fails, every ounce of strength is gone, and all that remains is the decision of where to place our trust. This is the story of one of those nights—and the quiet surrender that reminded me the storm was never ultimate. God is.
Tragic Reality of A Toxic Love Story: The Conversation We Need to Keep Having
Watching Netflix's "A Toxic Love Story" (the Michelle Hadley case) brings a surreal recognition of coercive control, false narratives, and legal abuse. A deeply personal reflection on doing the impossible math of surviving this type of relationship, and what it takes to get away.
Choosing Wonder in A Culture of Offense
Offense has a way of narrowing our vision until every interaction seems to confirm the story we've already decided to believe. Holy curiosity does the opposite. It slows us down, creates space for discernment, and helps us guard our own hearts without surrendering truth or healthy boundaries.
Immersed in His Word: Recognizing the Father's Voice Through Scripture
Have you ever wondered how we learn to recognize God's voice? Scripture is far more than a collection of verses to memorize. It is the place where we come to know His character so deeply that, over time, His voice becomes familiar. Like a child learning the language of home through daily immersion, we learn the language of our Father by abiding in His Word. This reflection explores the quiet invitation to remain where He has already spoken, trust His timing, and discover the peace that comes from walking with the God who has been faithfully speaking all along.
Not From Here: Out of Survival Into God’s Promise
Healing from emotional abuse takes more than time—it requires learning to feel safe again. This article explores how Scripture gently guides survivors from hypervigilance toward trust, using Israel's wilderness journey and Psalms 35 and 37 to illustrate God's patient work of restoring both the heart and the nervous system.
Exploring Biblical Repentance: Godly Sorrow and Lasting Change
Scripture describes repentance as a transformed heart that produces a transformed life. The examples like David, Zacchaeus, Nineveh, the Prodigal Son, and Paul's teaching in 2 Corinthians 7, we can learn to recognize the difference between worldly grief and the genuine fruit of godly sorrow. This post explores what genuine repentance looks like and why biblical discernment matters in high-conflict relationships.
Is Exposing Abuse Unbiblical? Matthew 18
For years, I believed Matthew 18 applied to every difficult relationship. Walking through abuse forced me to wrestle with what Scripture actually teaches about confrontation, safety, and truth. This post explores Matthew 18 alongside Mark 7 and Romans 13, and why telling the truth about abuse is not the same as slander.
How I Have Learned to Respond to a High-Conflict Ex: A Communication Guide (+ Free Script Sheet)
High-conflict co-parenting requires a different communication strategy. This guide explains how to write brief, factual, court-appropriate responses that protect your peace, strengthen your credibility, and keep the focus where it belongs—on your children rather than the conflict.
Subtle Signs of Emotional Abuse in Marriage | A Biblical Perspective
Emotional abuse rarely begins with obvious cruelty. More often, it quietly reshapes a person's reality through manipulation, fear, and the gradual erosion of safety and autonomy. This article explores the subtle signs of emotional abuse, how they differ from healthy marital conflict, and why biblical truth helps bring clarity to what can feel impossible to explain.
How Coercive Control Can Complicate Traditional Marriage Counseling
Traditional marriage counseling assumes two people are working toward restoration. But when coercive control is present, the dynamic changes. This article explores why biblical discernment is essential in high-control relationships and how truth, accountability, and safety work together to support both healthy marriages and those navigating hidden abuse.
Learning to Organize Family Court Evidence (+ Free Excel Workbook)
Organizing evidence for family court is about more than staying organized—it is about creating clarity in the middle of chaos. This guide walks through a practical Evidence Operating System designed to help pro se parents build a factual, chronological record while protecting both their case and their peace.
Understanding Complex PTSD After Relational Abuse
Complex PTSD affects far more than our memories—it reshapes the way our bodies respond to everyday life. Understanding the physical symptoms of prolonged relational trauma can replace shame with compassion and help us begin partnering with God as He gently restores both our nervous system and our sense of safety.