When Loving Your Children Means Refusing to Tear Them in Two
When children become proxies for post-separation abuse, protecting them can mean navigating coercive control, family court, and impossible choices while refusing to let the battle determine who you become. Sometimes loving your children means refusing to let them be torn in two.
Why Trauma Persists During Custody Disputes & Coercive Control
Healing is not produced by the passage of time alone. It requires safety. When coercive control continues through custody disputes and institutional failures, survivors remain trapped in survival, often mistaking ongoing danger for an inability to heal. Exploring the roles of safety, ambiguous loss, and the unique challenges of navigating coercive control and family court through the lens of both faith and lived experience. Understanding can become the first step toward freedom.